Did they grow up soft
because the world never asked them to harden?
Did they walk into rooms
without first shrinking?
Did they take risks
without calculating the cost
of disappointing someone
who only loved them on condition?
Did they believe in themselves
because someone else did first?
Or did they get boredโ
no chaos to survive,
no wounds to explain?
Did they go looking for something to break
just to feel the shape of struggle?
Did they become
the kind of parents they had?
Did they apologize
when they were wrongโ
not because they had to relearn love,
but because love taught them right?
Did they make art
without bleeding for it?
Did they sit in silence
and feel peace instead of panic?
I donโt envy them.
I just wonder
who I mightโve been,
if someone had softened the world for me first.
If someone had called me enough
before I called myself invisible.
Would I have been softer?
Would I cry without apology,
and breathe without bracing for impact?
Would my shoulders sit lower,
my laugh ring cleaner,
my joy come without the taste of rust?
Would I have let people in
without planning my escape route?
Would I still writeโ
but not as a survival skill?
Would I be whole,
and not just functional?
Are the loved children thrivingโ
or just surviving?
Should I be grateful
that I was forged in fire instead of cloudsโ
because the world is not kind
and I am equipped to survive it?
Should I pity them
for not being made for this world,
or be glad they at least
tasted peace?
I donโt need an answer.
But I ask anyway.
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